MICRO WEDDING PARTY PART II
In part two I am going in depth about the advantages and disadvantages of a Micro Wedding Party and how this minimalist approach on the traditional wedding party offers some big returns. In no particular order and with a dash of humor, here we go!
Advantages
Save your dear friend(s) from being a bridesmaid for the 10th time.
Maybe you have a lot of friends/family to choose from and deciding on who makes the cut is causing anxiety already let alone the pecking order of it all.
The fewer the attendants means the fewer accommodations or dare I say “requirements” for everyone that need to be considered or mandated. Because we all know that bride who wanted her entire bridal party in boot camp and with nightly teeth whitening, or didn’t want anyone really pregnant in her photos, or didn’t want anyone to cut their hair for six months. Are you rolling your eyes yet?
Friends do not have to feel obligated to host in traditional wedding party events, wedding attire, hair, makeup, etc. that is costly. I’m not saying they won’t participate but if they do it’ll be because they WANT to. Your friends/family will naturally be more carefree and enjoy the moments alongside you. Sip, sip, oh yay!
Feedback...let’s face it more people equals more opinions. Attempting to find dresses that are flattering on all body types and skin tones is exhausting. The back and forth of fittings, alterations, accessories, shoes, suits, and ties, can be overwhelming. Have you ever sat in on a meeting with the discussion topic “where to host a bachelorette weekend” with 5+ other ladies? There isn’t enough wine or time to get a solid agreeable location or budget.
Lighten the load. Attendees feel obligated to accept the wedding party request even though they don’t have the finances, time, or maybe interest in being apart of it. While your wedding is the most epic moment in your life...I’m going to say it...it might not be for your recently single/divorced friend...or the one in grad school...or in residency...or with three kids. But who is going to say no to a bride or groom? The pressure and struggle is real people.
How amazingly special would you feel if you were the chosen one? The honor of that title and moment that doesn’t have to be shared has got to be an incredible feeling.
Time on your wedding day! You will have more time for family portraits, couples portraits, and might actually make it to your cocktail hour for that super delicious signature drink you spent hours perfecting the color on.
Disadvantages
Friends or family might feel hurt initially with the thought of not making the cut. I think that once you explain why and how you came to this decision they might be more inclined to understand.
Your person of choice might feel overwhelmed at first with accepting the sole responsibility of wedding events and traditions. But if you have picked the right person they will shine! If your special person is still struggling, reach out to your planner and ask if they offer an hourly rate to help for an engagement party, shower, rehearsal dinner, etc. It’s totally ok to have friends volunteer to help and if they do it is because it’s coming from their heart and not out of obligation.
Your bucking a tradition...cue the gasps!
So there you have it some thoughtful insight on the Micro Wedding Party with reasons for consideration and why it’s a growing trend. For those that have been the special chosen one, I’d love to hear from you and your experiences. Couples, how did you come to your decision? What was your feedback from your inner circle? I have a feeling this is just getting the conversation started.
Xo,
Chrissy